We all make mistakes and no one is perfect. Sex is great but can also be made a mess of if proper communication isn’t happening. This list is just here to help you stimulate the conversation you have with your partner. Sexuality is complex and requires much discovery. Use this list to help you and your partner discover what your sex might be missing. But remember, this isn’t the be-all end-all.

1. Not Speaking Up

Every lady is different and orgasms in a unique way. Your man wants to make you come so if he isn’t, don’t give up. TALK TO HIM! Tell him what you like, even show him how to do it. He won’t be embarrassed; he’ll be elated that he made you come. So don’t be shy.

2. Not Being An Active Lover

He doesn’t always want to make the first move, so sometimes you should. Also be willing to try new things. You might discover something both of you love. Men like to be seduced and teased just as much as woman. Just remember to keep things fresh and change it up as often as possible. You don’t want sex to get boring; this can sometimes be hard though so be supportive of each other in trying new things. 

3. Thinking He’s a Machine

No body wants to have sex all the time so don’t throw a hissy fit if he doesn’t have an insta hard on the minute you walk into the room. If he’s not in the mood respect that, just like he would respect you. 

4. Talking About Non-Sexual Things

The only kind of talk that should be happening during sex is dirty talk. He DOES NOT want to hear about work or your mother. Leave that for a boring time like laundry or dinner. Also after sex, men usually fall asleep. It has nothing to do with you so get over yourself. He will come around for cuddle time. 

5. Not Having A Clean in Between

Ladies I really shouldn’t have to tell you this but practice good hygiene when it comes to your private parts. If you know you’re going to have a sexy time with your guy shower, perhaps shave (not if it’s not your thing) and lotion up. We all know it doesn’t smell like roses down there so help it out as much as you can. 

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For the past three years I have lived in Argentina, South Korea, and the United States. During these three years I’ve had a boyfriend and we’ve kept our relationship strong. If you’re planning to move far from your boo read my tips to see how you can keep the love alive.

Texting / Sexting

Our generation loves to text and there’s no reason to stop just because you move. Continue to share all the quirky details of your lives. Like the dude who smells inline at the post office and the adorable kitty you saw the other day. Share it all baby!

Even if you are moving to a different country there are tons of apps that let you text your boo for free. Textnow, Kakaotalk, and WhatsApp are all wonderful and I highly recommend them. 

Visit them

If it’s financially feasible you should visit your kindred spirit as much as possible. I think a surprise visit would be truly divine Especially on holidays or anniversaries. Like the first time you both shared one piece of gum.

Skype

Seeing your beloved’s face makes all the difference, not to mention their butt or private parts! Also if you make a Skype date, KEEP IT! Don’t be flaky!

Make a Schedule

If the time difference between you two is significant make sure to make prior arrangements. Like special weekend calls.

Email

When you’re at work and you’re super bored and you hate your boss and the coffee tastes like a diaper, tell your boo via email. Email them awesome links you find while you avoid doing your job. Keep the emails short and sweet and FUNNY!

Send Snail Mail

Everyone loves to receive mail and it is truly a lost art form. Send your lover cute postcards or just hand written letters. Include pictures, small nick knacks, and of course glitter. Decorate your letters with drawings and stickers! Invoke your inner 3rd grader.

Be Honest

Lying will be the death of your relationship, not the distance. If you break their trust in some form let them know. You both deserve to be honest to each other. Without trust there is no real relationship 

Good luck and God speed!

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by Giselle Bello

 

Looking for a budget-friendly evening? There are many ways to have a romantic and memorable date without spending a fortune. Here are some ideas for a great Valentine’s Day:

Enjoy a Dinner Date at Home

Fancy restaurants aren’t the only way to celebrate your romance. Instead, plan a nice homemade meal. You can surprise your valentine by preparing something special, or invite them over to cook together. Play some music and spend an enjoyable evening together preparing a meal. Stop by your local bakery before and pick up a ready-made delicious dessert, and you two can enjoy this sweet with some white wine to end the evening. 

Enjoy a Picnic in the Park

Be adventurous and go somewhere you have never visited before, such as a nearby nature preserve or city park. Bring a picnic along, filling your basket with foods from the local deli or homemade treat. Remember to pack foods that aren’t very messy and don’t need extended refrigeration. And why, bring a bottle of bubbly (open container regulations permitting!)

Go Out for Dessert

A fantastic compromise for dining out! Enjoy a meal together at home, then head to a gourmet restaurant for dessert instead of the full meal. By skipping expensive main dishes, you two can splurge on delicious fancy desserts. Add on a Champagne bottle (moderately priced), and voila! A romantic evening for two. You could even try finding a restaurant with a dessert room, or a restaurant with chocolate fondue.

Crowdsaving Sites

Sites such as LivingSocial and Groupon often have great deals for Valentine’s Day. Spa afternoons, boutique hotels, outdoor adventures, and dinner for two are just some of the deals that come up daily. If you buy one, make sure to call and reserve your spot beforehand. And remember to bring along your printed coupon, or activate the discount using an app on your cell.

Remember, Valentine’s Day is about the love that comes from within! A thoughtful and simple Valentine’s Day activity or gesture will be much more meaningful than an expensive dinner. Focus on each other and enjoy the time spent together on this romantic day.

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by Adam Corl

  

Valentine’s Day is pretty obnoxious, but (in my opinion) shouldn’t be written off as a lost cause. I think the first thing that needs to be done if you want to have a good V-day is recognize it for what it is: a day that has been hijacked by businesses that pressure all of us into spending money so that our special someone knows we care for them. 

Take the pressure off, you don’t need a day to tell people you care about them, obligation is not sexy – period. Talk about Valentines Day with the person you’re with and make sure you’re both on the same page in terms of expectations. February 14th doesn’t need to be a pressure filled spend-a-thon (especially if both people have a chance to set realistic expectations), it has potential to be a day to celebrate something beautiful with someone you care deeply about. 

Once you hash out the list of expectations you can focus on doing something that you both like to do. Restaurants can be kind of rough on V-day, so think about doing an indoor picnic, taking a cooking class, or get a couples’ massage (or if you’re on a budget buy some massage oil and do it yourselves).   

The main idea is to do something that helps you connect – not something that stresses you out. The most practical advice I have heard regarding V-day comes from sex and relationship advice columnist Dan Savage, who says that couples should re-think the typical V-day schedule and get down and dirty before having dinner. 

Hitting the sheets before dinner comes with a whole list of perks. Think about it – what works up an appetite better than sex? Switching up the schedule also makes getting reservations easier. Eating dinner later might mean that you can get a table at a great restaurant that would otherwise be out of the question. 

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