Will the Internet be the Death of Relationships?
In the early days of the internet, we were promised that it would change our lives. But has it really? And, if so, in what ways? Has is made our lives better… or worse?
The next time you’re out at the mall, or even at a restaurant, check out the people around you. How much time do they spend on their smart phones, PDAs and other handheld devices? Now consider yourself and your dining or shopping companion(s). Are you spending more time texting than talking to one another?
Many of us, sadly, would have to answer “Yes” to that question. But what makes our mobile devices, (and the internet in general), so captivating? What ever happened to enjoying a conversation with another human being… you know… the old-fashioned way – as in face-to-face?
The truth is that the internet and other forms of virtual communication allow people to feel more confident and comfortable. By texting, emailing and Tweeting, we have the barrier of technology between us and the people with whom we are communicating. That barrier helps us to feel less vulnerable. After all, being shot down by that super hot guy in your office is a lot less embarrassing (and perhaps even less painful), if it’s done online rather than face-to-face.
Even people who are already in relationships report that their relationships have changed because of the internet, and often in less than desirable ways. Many men and women alike first find out that their partners and spouses are cheating through something that gets posted online – a picture or comment from someone who apparently knows their beloved a whole lot better than they ought to takes them by surprise. All along, they had believed that every thing was hunky dory.
When it comes to the internet and relationships, it’s important to realize that a bit of flirting online may not mean that your one-and-only is cheating, but it should be reason for concern. Don’t jump to conclusions and talk to your partner about it openly and honestly. If you do find out they’ve been less-than-faithful, don’t forget to Tweet about it.