Are you dating THE right partner?
You are really fortunate to find a good honest life partner. Most often initially guys are very romantic and everything goes well but who will be committed lifelong? The most important feature to look for in a partner is not sexiness, not an entertaining personality, but good, strong character values. You need to know the difference between romance and intimacy. Romance is about personality, and intimacy is about character. Romance is superficial stuff and not necessarily long-lasting, though it does help. Intimacy is about connecting soul-to-soul, character-to-character, sharing your real self with someone else's real self and that's what's necessary for a solid, long-lasting relationship. You can figure out whether your partner is a fake or honest on your first date by just observing a few gestures. And thus you'll save yourself a lot of time by avoiding the wrong partner. So here it is.
He's kind to the wait staff/taxi driver/doorman: A man who can treat people well no matter what their income level or ‘station' in life will treat you in a more considerate way, no matter what your profession. The guy who considers himself above the taxi driver or doorman, on the other hand, may soon act like he's better than you (or your profession or your family).
Truthful: Has he or she confessed to any immoral behavior like cheating, stealing, lying, or an inappropriate aggression. If yes, how serious he is about the entire matter and does he desire to change?
He doesn't show off his expensive accessories: Guys who talk about how much things cost, especially to a virtual stranger, are basically insecure. They use money as a hook to catch women. But you're not that kind right? Remember, just because a guy spends a lot of money on himself, doesn't mean he'll lavish it on his girlfriend. In fact, people who have to tell you the price of everything are often cheap.
Flexible: Does the person you're dating have any addictions: drinking, gambling, and shopping (lol)? Does he or she want to change and is he or she working to make change happen?
Is his phone off: Unless he's an on-call surgeon or volunteer fireman, than cell phone should be nowhere in sight. "If he takes casual calls during your date, he has other priorities, and you may always come in second," Ask yourself this: Do you want to get involved with a guy who can't go two hours without talking to his broker, or his buddies, or his mom?
Kind hearted: Have you witnessed your date doing small acts of kindness (leaving a very big tip for no apparent reason, helping someone with his or her shopping bags)? Does he ever talks about donating time, money and energy to good causes/charity?
Intellectual: Does your date value self-growth and show this by being open to hearing your grievances, accepting responsibility for problems when merited, and sharing with you how much he or she values learning lessons in life?
Open Communication: Does your Mr. Right truly value open communication and know how to listen? When you're upset or need nurturing, does this person support you and be by your side as a true friend? Basically a relationship will survive not based on how well you get along, but by how well you don't get along. A couple is only as "strong" as how well the two individuals can deal with their weakest moments together.
He looks into your eyes: A man who focuses on your eyes when you're talking may be looking for a deeper connection. By paying particular attention to your face and therefore giving himself the ability to pick up your verbal and non-verbal cues, he's telling you that understanding you is important to him. That person just can be a fake.
Now that you know these key criteria to judge your date, you can focus on dating people with true keeper potential. So all the best in finding a true partner.
(Sources: adiviso, ninemsn.com.au)
