Why Do Most Couples Argue?
Couple argue. Some more than others. But what do the majority of couples argue about? Cheating? Kids? Chores? Friends? Work? A recent survey conducted by AICPA (the American Institute of CPAs) found that the most common cause of couple arguments was money.
Not surprising, perhaps but the survey also found that the average number of arguments couples have about money was 3 per month. That means that most couples are bickering about their budget about once every 10 days!
Is there any way to stop fighting about money?
Well, as with most things in life, prevention is key when it comes to preventing arguments with your spouse or partner.
How To Prevent Arguments About Money
- Talk About It - Before you move in together or get married, have an open and honest discussion with your partner about finances. Detail your expectations and listen to theirs as well. Agree upon guidelines for finances. Will you split everything 50/50? If not, decide how much each of you is going to pay.
- Touch Base Regularly - After you've moved in together or gotten married, touch base at least once a month about finances. Expenses change, as do people's jobs. Set aside an hour or two to talk frankly about what is going on with you both financially. Listen attentively. Be honest.
- Don't Hide Expenses - Often in a marriage or other relationship, it can be tempting to hide certain expenses… shopping addiction? Night out with the girls? Expensive gift for your parents? Although it's certainly true that having a few secrets from your spouse or significant other may be ok, that's often not the case when it comes to expenses. Be honest about any major expenses. Ask them to be honest with you as well.
With a bit of prevention and honest communication, arguing about money doesn't need to be an issue. Sure… couples will always find something to argue about. However, being open and honest with one another sets great groundwork for a long and happy union.