Why did you choose to read this article? How many of us seek guidance to save our relationships with our brothers, sisters, parents or neighbours? Hardly any one right!Every relationship is different from each other, but marriage is the most sensitive amongst all. This is not born out of blood relationships. It is something we get into by choice. Remember, two of us come from a different family background with different kinds of family values and habits. We like everything about each other in the first few months of our married life. However, the same starts becoming the reason to quarrel gradually. Small things like ‘why can't you skip your tennis on Sundays and reach church on time or why don't you make spicy meal like my mother'.If these small arguments are taken seriously, it may shake your love life.

"A marriage is supposed to be a union of two lives, two people bonded together for a lifetime and breaking that bond is one of the most difficult things to over come."

Try these simple steps below for an ultimate relationship in marriage.

• Couples should be sensitive and respectful towards each other's feelings and needs.

• Little disagreements and fighting is normal in any married life. This increases affection, however, fight fair. Ignore little things when you know that is not going to harm both of you in the long run.

• Don't argue in front of other people. Don't insult each other or each other's families. Never threaten divorce or try to show your parents status.

• Trust in each other and never keep secrets from each other. You have the right to know everything about your partner but do it in a positive way, don't be suspicious.

• Communicate with your partner even if you don't think it was important but tell him/her about what all happened during the day. Make it your aim to be your spouse's best friend. Discover new ideas to have fun with each other.

• Appreciate your spouse for who they are. Show positive gestures if the other one is trying to do something for you, no matter you liked it or not.

• Take time off from each other. Give each other space and time to work on hobbies and personal interests. Allow your partner move around with his friends and relatives.

Husbands: Husbands should remember that women are more emotional and expects a lot of love and care. You will constantly have to show that you love them. Don't get irritated or feel hesitant in repeating ‘I Love You'. Listen patiently what they have to say.

Wives: Be patient and understanding; don't just start cribbing about the daily routine stuffs just after your husband is back from home. Refresh him, be loving, offer him tea or coffee and then probably you can discuss all your worries.Wait for the right time and the right mood. Do not force or order him to do something.

Two people come together to make a beautiful family. Don't let it get spoiled due to small and meaningless issues. Show your love and affection to your family and live happily.

"Gone are the days when we had plenty of time to take care of ourselves and look beautiful". Does the same often come to your mind as well? Believe me, it's never late to groom up yourselves and enhance your personality. Many of us turn to a casual attitude towards our selves after few years of marriage. Women are full of emotions and they know their responsibilities better than men. She can even lose her own identity for the family. But is this correct? Think about it. Are you really living your life to the fullest? Look into the mirror and ask yourself "are you the same person as you were ten years back?"Well, you very well know the answer.

It's time to pull up your socks and get ready to match up with the changing trend. Try these small tips and feel the difference.

• To keep your family healthy, you should first concentrate on your own health. Have a balanced diet and a good 6-8 hours sleep. Have a positive attitude towards life which will improve your mental, emotional & spiritual fitness.

• Dress makes the first impact on people. Find out what suits your figure & stature well.Look for smart dress to make a positive impression. Choose the right hair cut matching your lifestyle.

• Improve the way you communicate verbally and your body language.Refer books, websites, television and keep practicing.

• Always keep yourself updated. Try getting into the habit of reading newspapers and books.

• If you are into business/profession, learn to manage your time. If possible, keep a helper so that you can spend more time with your family.

• It's important to know driving. Start taking care of little issues like paying off the bills, bank work, dropping children to school etc so that you can share the workload of your husband.

• In your busy work schedule, take out some time everyday for yourself where you can do your favourite pass time. It could be anything like listening to music, painting, net surfing etc.

I am sure; the little efforts mentioned above will make a difference to your life. And the most important, always wear a smile on your face......You look beautiful when you smile...and you know that ...right??

When one of your friends is getting married, what special can you do to make the last day of her bachelorhood a special one? Surprise her by throwing a rocking party filled with the memories that she will cherish for rest of her life.

It's her party so her taste: You must be the best one to know the taste of your friend, so take care of her taste while arranging even the smallest thing in the party. If she is a party animal, throw a grand party, if she likes short and simple, keep it private with just few of yours close friends. She will love this and that will be the sweetest wedding gift for her.

Take a weekend off: Instead of making a short night party, elongate it to a weekend and enjoy it to the fullest. Pamper your would be bride with a spa and massage, may be in a resort.Spend time recalling sweet memories, college days, x boyfriends, these fun moments won't come back so live it as much as you can.

Evening in a pub: Plan an evening in pub and go crazy with drinks and dance. Do whatever she enjoys doing. If you're going to the snazzy new club in town, make sure you hire a car to bring you back. After more than a couple of cocktails, none of you should be driving. The bride-to-be doesn't want a splitting hangover headache on her big day. Make sure you keep the drinking within limits and eat adequately. Make sure all close friends are together on this very day to make the occasion special.

Bring back school: Be a child and just like school girls and do naughty things like watch silly romantic movies, gossip all night, put nail paints and all those naughty girls talk. After all this is the time when you are spending the beautiful moments and may be you won't get this time again.

Games: In case you plan a grand party with lots of guests, make sure you arrange lots of interesting games to make the party rocking. Get each one to introduce them and relate their favourite memory with the bride-to-be.

Relocation after marriage is a common problem that most of the girls face. You have to compromise and leave everything, friends, parents, career behind to start a new life. In place of regretting or feeling depressed let's find out a better solution. It's not easy but trust me exploring a new place is again a wonderful experience.

• Research helps: It's a jet age; everything is available in your laptop. Just you need to goggle right keywords. Search about the country or town you are relocating. About the language, food style, local community. In case you relocate out of your country, it's very necessary to know at least a small bit of the local language, that's going to make your life easy.

• Make friends: Through lots of networking site like orkut, facebook, twitter connect with people of the place you have relocated to. This is how you will be able to understand the culture of the place. Even they can help you to find out the market place and shopping complex on your own. Why to bother your husband for every small thing. Be a smart woman.

• Career: Take a gap and once you know the place better, try looking for job of your interest. Sitting idle at home is the biggest cause of depression. So move out, meet with people and get along. Initially you may feel out of the place but unless you socialize you will always remain a stranger to the city. Once you are independent and start loving your job, you will feel much better and start accepting the new place.

• Keep in touch with old pals: leaving the place doesn't mean you leave your relationship and friends. Keep in touch with all your friends. There will be a time when you feel alone and will need them the most. I was once in a new place on my birthday and no one was around but all my pals called me , sent me messages and flowers to make me special and trust me it was a wonderful feeling.

So never give up, try fighting with the situation and you will definitely come up with flying colours. So next time, just don't say ‘No' to a good marriage just because of relocation. You just need a perfect loving husband and everything will be fine.

New born baby comes with lots of happiness and dreams however in most of the marriages, excitement evaporates in a haze of sleeplessness and dirty diapers. Is this happening to you also? We start visualizing the distance that starts growing and too often threatens to topple the marriage. This should not happen , new relationships should not break older one. Children is a wonderful addition to a relationship and also the very thing that can cause distress and a shutting down of the feelings that brought the two of you together as a couple. Too often after children enter the picture and couples ignores their own relationship. Couples get caught in these new roles and forget to nurture the very relationship that brought the new life into being! So what can be done? Let's try to find solution.

• To begin with, it is necessary for you and your partner to truly take time to be together. Being good parents is a wonderful and admirable thing, but not at the risk of forgetting about your relationship. It is not wrong or selfish act to take some time for each other apart from kids. Trust me your children won't blame you. They will infact grow up with an understanding and confidence to do the same in their relationships.

 • Today both the couples are working or busy with hectic schedule and logistics of children that they feel that they are just too tired to nurture the relationship. Common you don't need to go to some trip or fancy place to nurture your relationship. Just take some time and spend with each other, just you and your love. It makes a difference.May be just sit together on the couch, hold hands, have a cup of tea or a glass of wine. This feeling of being together elevates your relationship. Recall those beautiful and romantic moments that you have spent together. Of course you can't behave in the same manner when you were without kids but these small gestures and moments can bring back the fire in your relationship. You can easily find some lonely moments even with a houseful of children. It's just you have to wish for the same.

• It may sound kidish but it is important to date your spouse. Take some quiet time together after the children go to sleep. Make it a special evening. Have a special dessert or open a special bottle of wine. What you do and how is not as important as actually creating the time to be together. You can drop your children with some friends or relatives and can have a few hours alone together.

• Always remember when you get time alone you should not discuss about kids or household stuffs. This is the quality time just for both of you. Recall what you enjoyed when you began dating. What did you talk about as you got to know one another? You must begin to recapture the quality of excitement and aliveness that defined the beginning of the relationship.

• After so many years of marriage you don't get things to talk about apart for daily routine, kids, office and all. Rediscover your partner, trust me even after so many years, you probably don't know everything about your partner. If you can begin to have a sense of inquiry and curiosity about that person you will learn new and exciting things about them and your relationship will become more exciting.

• Fall in love! Yes true formula of a successful marriage is to fall in love again and again with the same person.A wink, a knowing smile, a note left in their bag or on the bathroom mirror, a text message on their phone or a gentle touch can go a long way to create correlation with your partner. You will be happier, your relationship will be strengthened and your children will grow into adults who learn that parenting does not need to signal the end of strong and vibrant adult relationships.

On a serious note divorce is something that not only affects the couple but also any children, work, friendships, family and even your financial stability. Some problems l think stay you with forever, some may be resolved but things come back to haunt you in years to come. Because who really got married thinking they were then going to get divorced somewhere down the track? I think most people think it is a one off thing, but when it does not work their whole lives turn upside down.

There is a lot of help out there, especially with the World Wide Web, and you must already know that as you are reading this!

Do not expect and never blame anyone.

Accept yourself. Respect yourself. Love yourself. Take good care of yourself. If you really wish, you can always find something to do that makes you feel good about yourself. Love yourself, so hunt your true needs, true desires. Ask yourself why you didn't? Too often relationships fail because someone is unhappy and blames their partner for making them that way. Your life is only under your control. Keep reminding yourself you are good enough to have a happy life and a healthy relationship. Make yourself happy, and this joy with one another.

Respect the difference  and don't expect he or she to agree with you on everything. If you say you're going to meet your partner for lunch at noon, be on time, or call if you're going to be late. Always show respect for yourself and your partner, as this will create a sense of trust and safety.

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